Today I was reading one of my favorite blogs over on The Sydney Morning Herald website. The blog author, Sam de Brito was commenting on the pickle many single men of today are in. Granted, being a married man, this isn't an issue that's of direct concern to me, it's more just a curiousity.
To make a long story short (and in as close an approximation as I can get to de Brito's Aussie slang riddled writing style): one of de Brito's mates, a real good stick, had a first date with a girl. They were getting on pretty damn good and it looked like it was headed for a jersey back at his mate's pad. But Sam's mate decided he wasn't sure there was any potential for anything so he decided to go the gallant route and went home alone at about 1 am.
The next day the sheila who set up the date asked de Brito if his mate was a poof. de Brito replied that his mate wasn't looking for anything long term and didn't want to sully his reputation by going the one night stand route even though he was certainly interested in a jersey with the lass.
(does anyone feel like they need a translator?)
At any rate it raises the question-- what's a guy to do, if he goes the one-night stand route he comes off as a bit of a cad and if he goes the gallant route he comes off as being a bit of a poof.
As de Brito himself said in closing:
"you're damned if you do, and you're gay if you don't"
Being a bit of a good stick myself, I never really went the "one night stand" route (it really messed up the whole feng sui of my apartment, I really need 2 nightstands to pull the whole room together. j/k). About the closest I ever came was going the friends with benefits route with an ex-girlfriend several months after we'd split up. And even that didn't really end well. But that's beside the point. I'm more putting this out there for discussion.
If you're really interested in a special sheila and she's really interested in you but you want something more serious than a one-off with her.
Blokes: What is going through your mind? If you do the one night stand thing with her it might ruin the opportunity for something more. And if she turns out to be a right shag, you'll be hating yourself for going the quick and easy route later on. If you do the honorable thing you run the risk of sending the message that either a) you're a poof or b) you're not interested. So what's the easiest way out of this pickle? (and you thought those Physics questions about 2 trains traveling in opposite directions back in high school were difficult!)
Sheilas: What's the easiest way for a bloke to avoid this situation? And for a bloke you don't really know what message are you receiving if it ends up being a one-off? what message are you receiving if things are going really well but he ends up doing the honorable thing and going home alone to get one off the wrist instead?
Discuss amongst yourselves
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