The passage in particular that these ladies are referencing is:
My husband is a natural-born leader. I quickly learned that I had to find a way of honoring his take-charge personality and not get frustrated about his desire to have the final decision on just about everything. I am not a passive person, but I chose to fall into a more submissive role in our relationship because I wanted to do everything in my power to make my marriage and family work.Maybe because I'm a conservative male I'm missing something but I read this a testament of what SHE does to make HER marriage work. She wrote a book. The book can be purchased for money... or not. To my knowledge no women in America are being forced at gunpoint or threat of incarceration to read this book. Contrary to what at least one of the panelists in the clip above is insinuating, Ms. Bure is not FORCING her view of her particular role in her marriage on ANYONE. She did NOT say:
A WOMAN'S PLACE IS BAREFOOT AND IN THE KITCHEN SERVING HER MAN AND IF YOU DON'T AGREE WITH ME YOU ARE HEATHEN SCUM WHO WILL BURN IN HELL!And maybe this is just me being a brain-dead conservative male again... but I thought the feminist movement wasn't JUST about empowering women, equal pay for equal work and all that... I thought it was also about women having that choice... It wasn't about women entering the work force... it was about women finally having that as an option. Some women are career minded and choose to enter the work force and remain in it after having kids. Some women, CHOOSE to stay at home after having kids, it's a different role. It's not inherently bad or unequal... it's what works for those particular women.
Maybe it's just me but most of the arguing on this issue seems to be between women. There aren't many knuckle-dragging neanderthal men who still believe a woman's place is barefoot and in the kitchen with an infant suckling at each breast left in this country... not saying they don't exist, just that such men are an ever-shrinking minority.
Most of the guys I know (and if any of you disagree with me, feel free to tell me so) are focused on the marriage/relationship they're in and making it work. We love and respect the women we're with and consider them to be partners. We learn our roles in our respective relationships and those roles tend to evolve with our marriages and relationships. Because we love and respect the women in our lives we support them in whatever decision they choose to make... if they want to stay at home with the kids, that's great, we'll figure out a way to make it work. If they want to go back to work after having kids, that's great too, we'll work together and make that happen. We respect our women to support them in the life path they choose and we're willing to work with them as partners in following their path as they work with us in following ours.
To the ladies who continue to make an issue of this... What works for you might not work for others. Make your own way, your own choices and respect other women enough to let them do the same.